5 wrong moves to avoid during an argument with your partner

However, during an argument, it is important to understand that you are not fighting your partner, but the issue. It might be a little bit toxic when there is no interest from the other partner to argue healthily. Like in most things in every aspect of life, there are the right and wrong ways to go about it. This article focuses on the wrong things some people sometimes do during an argument with their partner.  It is the hope that after reading this article, you will be able to recognise them and actively avoid them. That way an argument might serve as a tool that could actually strengthen rather than destroy your relationship.

Here are 5 wrong things to do when in an argument.

1. Walking away amidst an argument

This could make your partner feel as though you have pulled the rug out from under their feet. You don’t disengage or shut down when you do that because the problem remains unsolved, and your partner gets frustrated. If you feel exhausted, you could voice that out to your partner rather than bailing. Set a convenient time when you can listen and understand each other.

2. Making decisions during an argument

During an argument, you are not in the right frame of mind to make any weighty decisions, it is always advised that before any decisions are made, make sure you are cool-headed. If the situation is not something that requires immediate action such as domestic violence, do not make hasty decisions.

3. Bringing up past issues and mistakes

Wrong move!  This is only going to aggravate issues rather than solve any problem. It is always important to fight fair and not try to win an argument. Past issues are very irrelevant to present issues; this can make your partner extra defensive. If something happened a few years ago that you still have an issue with, set a different time to discuss that and not in the middle of a fresh one.

4. Trying to resolve things via text

Texting can be healthy for any other thing asides resolving an argument. You can’t hear the tone of the voice, read their body language or see and interpret their body language. It is not healthy to resolve issues via text because most of our communication is non-verbal.

5. Trying to be right to win an issue

Whatever happens, always remember that you and your partner are on the same team, so there is no point to try to prove how wrong or right anyone is, you won’t get very far. Find a middle ground or agree to disagree, this will help the partner feel worthy of consideration.