For many, many people, infidelity is the deal breaker as far their relationships are concerned. Strike once and you’re out.
But sometimes, despite our personal resolutions and convictions, situations may arise where we might find it difficult to act on those convictions. At such times, other considerations may well override what other courses of action we may have taken were specifics different. At those times, we might find ourselves seeking counsel from friends and families, or from professional therapists or even from the public as we try to come to terms with the situation that we are facing.
But whatever happens, at the end of the day, the final decision rests on us and we must be prepared to face whatever consequences that might arise from that decision. So, we should be careful to weigh what we learnt and compare them to what we are feeling regarding the whole matter and doing the right thing, which may not necessarily align with our personal convictions.
So, when an issue of an infidelity that resulted in pregnancy was thrown open on social media, unsurprising, it generated a lot of debate. Some commenters advised for an immediate termination of the marriage contract and some others advocated for forgiveness.
The issue was first shared by a Twitter user Miss Demeanour, @Letsang. “A friend cried last night. His wife is pregnant… And not by him,” she tweets, followed with broken heart emojis. “I am devastated,” she adds.
The topic was of sufficient interest to elicit a long reply from media personality and bestselling author of On Becoming, Toke Makinwa. She just didn’t reply to the tweet but preferred to screenshot the message and share her reply on her Instagram page. A good thing she did that, or we might have missed this interesting question.
In Toke Makinwa’s point of view, the cheated husband may well be the cause the wife strayed. She thinks the man should accept the child and not end the marriage as “wife scarce for market.” She also based her argument on the premise that the wife chose the husband over the person with whom she cheated, who by the way, Makinwa describes as an “outsider”.
Read her full post and tell us in the comment section whether you agree with her.
@tokemakinwa: “Hmmmmmm!!! This is a deep issue o. Maybe he was focused on his career and was always going out. Maybe the man outside is the innocent looking one, does not have swag, easy going and natural.
“Maybe he needs to hit the gym fast, cook for her, take care of the kids etc…
“Whatever he decides, he should just accept the child, the other man will always be an outsider, it was a mistake; after all, it is him she married, he is the legal husband.
“He should fight for his marriage, forgive her, dem no Dey throway wife o, where will he start from? Wife scarce for market! #Thingstoldtome #My2cents #Marriageisdoordie”
