This is why you should fall in love with yourself

A lot of people depend on other people for love or for confidence, which is all good and fine but no matter how you want to look at it, self-love will always trump. The best relationship is the one you have with yourself. Some theists might argue that one’s relationship with God should take precedence, which again is all good and fine. But my argument still remains that a good relationship with oneself is needed for one to be able to build a solid foundation with others (or God). A lot of people actually don’t understand this, some feel it’s a mere say, while others just neglect it, maybe because they do not recognise its importance.

Don’t focus on your perceived or real insecurities, your faults, your errors, your mistakes, your wrongdoings, your failures, negativities amongst others. Doing this will only leave you sad about yourself, and make you dislike your person. Rather, focus on your strengths, your abilities, your skills, what distinguishes you from the rest, your peculiarities, your accomplishments, all the things that make you feel great. This will boost your confidence level and make you appreciate yourself more. Also, don’t be too busy focusing on other people around you that you lose sight of who you are. I understand the part of not wanting to be alone and all that. But, you have to learn to be comfortable alone or being with yourself.

This is what you can do: seek ways to improve your personal life. You can create a schedule on what you need to do for/with yourself. Look out for fun and interesting things to do with your break, leave or free times. Take yourself out on a date, cook your favourite meal, buy stuff you like, watch your favourite movie, go to the beach, all the fun things you enjoy doing. Forgive yourself for any past mistakes and always remember you’re human. No human is perfect. Always take note of your achievements, pursue new heights, have new goals, set new targets. Always give yourself some accolades, kudos, praise, and when you feel tired, give yourself a break because you deserve it.

What is the importance?

1. When you love yourself, it is easier for you to love other people or give love. There is a popular saying that goes: “you can’t give what you don’t have.”  This is an honest truth. If you have love built up on your inside, it is very easy to share it with others. It is also easier to fall in love and maintain a romantic relationship because you love yourself, and now you understand what it connotes because you have practiced it on you.

2. Like I earlier mentioned, trying to love other people without first loving yourself is kind of destructive. It only means they are your love backbone, they are the ones you use as a support system, you depend on them for love.

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The true but painful side of this is that, whenever they decide to leave or quit on you in one way or the other, you end up shattered. You have nothing to fall on. But, if you love yourself and is confident about your person, even if people let go of you, you are better able to cope and to go on with your life.

3. Another important reason why you should love yourself is, it helps you build more confidence in yourself. It helps you develop self-worth. You don’t have to go about comparing yourself with other people. Self-confidence and self-worth are two things lacking in a lot of people, and this can lead to low self-esteem and inferiority complex. However, this situation can be averted, and one way to achieve that is by developing self-love. People only compare themselves with others when they feel there is something the other person has that they do not have or will never have as the case maybe. For anything you need to become a better person is already in you. All you need to do is grow and that can come through self/personal development. It may not come by copying others or wanting to be like others (someone you are not). There is nothing like being you, breathing your own air and living your life not another person’s life.

Final words

So, while you may feel pressure to put all your efforts into maintaining relationships, remember that healthy relationships come in many different forms and that simply loving yourself can be enough. I am not saying become selfish, but equally consider yourself a human being who deserve lots of love, care and attention. Loving yourself improves everything in your life. It improves your mentality, your health, your relationship with people and your partner, and your entire well-being. Focus less in winning the approval of others, rather, focus more on improving yourself as a person. It will do you a lot of good and equally benefit the people around you and the entire world at large.

Don’t ever think it’s late or too late to fall in love with your self. Start now to make the changes you need to make. Start seeing yourself as an amazing being and work towards living the best of your life. By this, I mean living your life to the fullest.